Your Going Make It

 I must confess and repent that since leaving Louisville and the death of my father two years ago I have been in a world wind of emotions that hasn’t always allowed me to perform at my best and be there for people in the way that my calling has made room for me. I was way to busy focusing on the “what ifs” and “whys” then to take the lessons of the pain, disappointments and sadness and use them for the good of God and to help other people. I think so many times in trying to create a new normal we end up doing too much and not realizing that the thing or anointing God put in you in the beginning will always be apart of your mission and passion but life calls for it to evolve as we grow and become different people as life goes on. Lately God has blessed me so much by allowing me to sit with people in their situations. I’m not called to help people to fix them but I know that I am called to not leave people alone. I don’t know what’s best for people in their personal relationships with God as he directs them but what I do know is pain because it has licked the edge of my soul and sat in the heart of my spirit. And by knowing these things so purely I am able to sit with people in the freshness of their situation and reassure them that it will be ok. Yes it will look different and yes it will challenge you and take you out of a place of comfort but you will survive. The gift is not in what you can do for people the gift is in what you cant do for them but still sit with them. You cant heal people, you cant get them to the next level, your not a savior but you can be a presence. I’ve recently found so many of my friends that have lost their confidence due to different situations. But the question that I keep saying to them is when did you start to believe the lie that your value is less because someone said so or because you made THAT mistake. The truth is you lived and it didn’t turn out how you expected it and now that you have lived in that moment will you make the choice to now learn. The failure is not in the living or even in the mistake; but the failure is did you take away from it what it came to teach you. God is completely in control of everything so if he didn’t think you needed to experience it then he wouldn’t have allowed it to come into your life because he knows what you can resist and what you cant and he also knows what you will choose to resist and what you will walk right into freely and because there is no temptation that Jesus himself didn’t face he completely understands you. So why did it come? What did it teach you? And how will you move forward? Those are only questions you can answer for yourself. So take a deep breath, say a prayer, listen to God and keep it moving. Don’t stop because you didn’t get it the first time around. Now is your time to know that you deserve better than what you have allowed. Its not the other persons fault so stop blaming them; You’re an adult so take responsibility for what you allowed. (You still reading, then your alive and ok); now keep it moving. Your going survive; your going live and your going be ok. God kept you close so you wouldn’t let go. #KeepItMovingPeople

#GodsGotThisOneAndTheNextOneAfterThat

Growing up we are taught and trained to be apart of a group: family, friends, race, church, or community. We are taught that are value is in what group we are in and in that the consequences is that we learn to base our opinions about ourselves and others based on the view of the majority of the people that influence us regardless of what those views are. We tend to find our identity in those places and people. We control are outlook, actions and attitudes based on what other people think. It cripples us because for so long many of us go along life not knowing who we are. Are own values, are own creativeness, and our own calling. It’s like being placed in a box and expected to go along with the flow; you get it too- why the caged bird sings because it is looking for the song of life it can identify with or the tune of life it can create and dance to. The general notion of what we all have been taught in one way or another is to “Be yourself” but the tragedy in that for so many people is that when they actually decide to do that and awake their souls and take a intentional step towards rearranging their own lifes, ideas, values, principles and actions is many times those people around them begin to freak out, question them and their actions, abandon them, begin to argue, fight and fuss with them and cause all kinds of trouble, heartache and pain for a person who is walking in their own truth and becoming who they were created to become. Instead of assisting and helping the person a lot of time they bring more harm than good. In becoming who you were created to be you have to make a decision that no matter what the cost is your going to get to your destination in order to be happy.  Once you figure yourself out then you have to be willing to decide that your going to go down that journey no matter what. Expect problems even from people who claim that they love you and only want your best interest. Expect setbacks even when it comes to yourself. Expect that you might even have to be willing to change the plan of the process while holding on to the vision. When building a house the plan looks great on paper but when it actually comes time to build your going to encountering situations that are going to force you to make adjustments but you don’t give up you just keep pushing until the house is complete. That’s life and with any goal you have to hold on to your vision and make the adjustments needed in order to get to the outcome just make sure you never loose yourself in the process. I never thought that would happen, is something you will find yourself saying many times, but remember you also never thought you would be on the road to discovering your full truth and potential. For every heartache, headache, setback and misstep there is a plan and lesson that goes with “finishing the house” in order to make it better. Be confident that God is the builder of your house of happiness that your soul must dwell in. Jesus is your life coach who will guide you along the way and the Holy Spirit is the encouraging who keeps telling you “Keep Praying and Keep going”. As my grandparents will so often say to be “Little Robert Its going be ok, keep doing you, It’ll work out”. #KeepItMovingPeople #GodsGotThisOneAndTheNextOneAfterThat   

Dont Be Surprised People Do Change

There has been so much going on in my life lately that I can’t even begin to configure everything into a simple blog. But the one thing that has been a constant reminder through all of the things that I have been going through is that it’s all going be ok. I have seen family members and friends change in drastic ways recently. A lot of trust has been broken, words have been said that can’t ever be taken back and actions have definitely forced me to see people who I thought were close to me in a different light. But here is the thing about this time around, I’m not sad about it or devastated about it. It’s been an assurance that I have held on to that this will be ok whatever it is and whatever happens. I am not responsible for people’s actions or their words. I am not responsible for what people do and say. All I am responsible for is myself. I have been on a quest to get my happy back and what I really think that is about is being comfortable in my own skin and my own decisions and not letting people or situations effect me. I am done with feeling guilty about others actions and choices family or not. I am done with feeling like I should say something different just to avoid people’s egos getting bruised because they can’t handle the reality of the situation. Here’s the deal I am going state the situation let the chips fall where they may because holding in it causes way too much stress. Here’s the deal one day my feet will get cold and my eyes will shut and that is a guarantee for everyone so while we are here we should at least be happy and if those people around you aren’t willing to be happy with you or celebrate in your happiness then it might be time to let them go. Not everyone even family members who start the journey with you are suppose to end the journey with you. Don’t get upset when people betray you, hurt you, leave you or force you to leave them because that just means you’re being saved from trouble and preserved for something greater. God doesn’t just want you to get to the victory; he wants you to get to the victory with less burses as possible. So trust Jesus and Obey the father and in all of this God will give you a purpose for your pain. Let you pain, your problems and your entire struggle be intentional. Never forget only God is good so don’t be surprised in peoples behavior….

Just Say Thanks

Each and every day we take for granted when things are going well. We take for granted the goodness of God and how he has blessed us and saved us from ourselves and the people around us. How he is has not only rescued us from sin but how he has shielded us from trouble that we don’t even know about. Even in darkness my soul shouts Amen because when I begin to stop and think of the goodness of Jesus Christ and all that he has done for me I can’t contain how grateful I am. Yes there is trouble now and there will be trouble coming and yes things aren’t the way I hoped them to be but overall I think about how gracious Jesus has been to me and I can’t but help say Amen.  Whatever your going though just say thanks… Whatever it is Just say thanks and God will bless you…

He Alone Makes All The Difference

“Alone Before Him I Could Not Defend My Utter Lack Of Faith” 

When I think about Jesus Christ and his role in life as the perfect one God and savior and his ability to change everything in my life and around me it makes me just scream at myself and cry even harder in dust and ashes over my pain. I find myself loosing my breath in the AWE of who he is and what he as accomplished to do in the hearts and minds of his chosen children. When I was in full time Christian ministry at different churches I always wanted to be the best in my lane and that was Christian education. I wanted to be the best debater and arguer for my points. But the more I have lived and fallen and experienced life in its raw and unforgiving way the more I know my calling in life is just to get people to Jesus. If following all the Christian rules is a prerequisite to getting into heaven I know that heaven will be empty. So my mission is just to get people to Jesus. I don’t care about you affiliations with whatever group you consider yourself to be in. I just want people to experience the relationship that Jesus Christ offers them personally on an individual basis. Every person ought to know this kind of love and experience this kind of grace in their lives and hearts. All of us on the playing field are guilty prisoners to something that controls apart of our existences but in Christ you can be unconditionally loved. I have seen so many of my family members and friends chase after lofty empty love that has no eternal foundation and end up emotionally bankrupted. I have been there many times chasing after moments of happiness that when they came they didn’t fulfill my expectations. But every time I have been with Jesus whole heartedly I recognize in that moment if I am obedient to his perfect will he will walk with me along the entire journey that I am facing. I am not saying in the physical it always works out the way I want it to but what I can say with confidence is that it will all make sense one day when I see Jesus for myself. I encourage you no matter what your place is in life or what other people have told you about yourself just go to Jesus and experience him for yourself. He alone will make all the difference.  

A Better Version Of Yourself

…History Despite Its Wrenching Pain Cannot Be Unlived But If Faced With Courage Need Not Be Lived Again… #ChangeYourOwnLife

The ideal verses the reality is a topic that has been on my heart recently and I believe that we have to stop fanaticizing about our ideals or dreams that we have created in our own heads when it comes to the relationships and things that surround us. Its like the saying the “good old days”, well when we really stop to think about that we have to admit that even those days had its fair share of issues as well. What the past few weeks have taught me in my life personally is that on the road to becoming the best version of myself I cannot allow what I desire to run ahead of my present moment. I cannot be controlled of by hope nor can I be contained by my fear. Reality makes it simple my past not have been filled with roses like I made it out to be in my head but I cant let the fear of embracing what it really was stop me from learning the lessons that I need in order to equip myself for the future. Growth is a painful process and many times people around you who are stuck become collateral damage because they cant see the vision that you are on to preparing yourself for your moment but you cant let their personal feeling effect what you know to do for sure to help save yourself. Obedience is the key to any success and joy that you are seeking in order to fulfill and sustain your own life.  You have to be obedient to whatever God is saying to you. You cant get caught up in all the outside noise and distractions. Stick to the plan and know that it will be painful as hell but when you face it you will gain the courage you need and that will stop you from repeating it again. Your Joy is found when you find God and enjoy him forever and the plan that he has for your life. Keep it moving. God’s got your back.

2014: Choose Joy

The older I get and the more I experience on each journey and path that life throws at me the more I found out that nothing in the physical can ever be counted on. Life happens. People’s feeling change, death happens, the unexpected comes from around the corner and blindsides you and the path of hell is paved with good intentions. In my experience the only thing that is for sure is prayer- taking time to talk to Jesus Christ about everything that is going on in your life is the only thing that is certain. Prayer is praising God for all that he is and has done, prayer is releasing yourself in order to surrender to whatever God’s will is for your life in that particular moment. Prayer is declaring and prophesying to yourself that all is well with your own soul. Prayer is stability, an anchor and a guide to assist you along life’s many journeys. When people say what do you know for sure my answer is that prayer takes you to a divine place of peace. Recently I have switched my mindset from looking for happiness to creating a new normal of living in Joy. Happiness are glimpses of moments in life that are pleasing but joy is a state of being that you are satisfied with whatever comes your way. If we are looking on counting on happiness we will continue to be unstable and ride a rollercoaster of emotions that only trivialize the purity of what life is about and that is enjoying God now and forever. And I would submit to you the only way to accomplish that is through deep and personal prayer. Prayer doesn’t have to be fancy lofty words; prayer can simple be God Help Me Now. As we embark upon this New Year I know we all have resolutions and goals that we would like to see happen: loosing weight, having better relationships, stopping a bad habit or improving your career. While all of these things are good and notable let us not forget our spiritual health. Everything in life changes, you know this, from family relationships, friendships, lovers, your health and even your church but God never changes he is always ready to engage you in conversation. So stay prayed up because that is what will get you through the worse days of your life and will also help you to fully appreciate the best days of your life.

Happy New Year And God Bless