Monday, February 24, 2014


Growing up we are taught and trained to be apart of a group: family, friends, race, church, or community. We are taught that are value is in what group we are in and in that the consequences is that we learn to base our opinions about ourselves and others based on the view of the majority of the people that influence us regardless of what those views are. We tend to find our identity in those places and people. We control are outlook, actions and attitudes based on what other people think. It cripples us because for so long many of us go along life not knowing who we are. Are own values, are own creativeness, and our own calling. It’s like being placed in a box and expected to go along with the flow; you get it too- why the caged bird sings because it is looking for the song of life it can identify with or the tune of life it can create and dance to. The general notion of what we all have been taught in one way or another is to “Be yourself” but the tragedy in that for so many people is that when they actually decide to do that and awake their souls and take a intentional step towards rearranging their own lifes, ideas, values, principles and actions is many times those people around them begin to freak out, question them and their actions, abandon them, begin to argue, fight and fuss with them and cause all kinds of trouble, heartache and pain for a person who is walking in their own truth and becoming who they were created to become. Instead of assisting and helping the person a lot of time they bring more harm than good. In becoming who you were created to be you have to make a decision that no matter what the cost is your going to get to your destination in order to be happy.  Once you figure yourself out then you have to be willing to decide that your going to go down that journey no matter what. Expect problems even from people who claim that they love you and only want your best interest. Expect setbacks even when it comes to yourself. Expect that you might even have to be willing to change the plan of the process while holding on to the vision. When building a house the plan looks great on paper but when it actually comes time to build your going to encountering situations that are going to force you to make adjustments but you don’t give up you just keep pushing until the house is complete. That’s life and with any goal you have to hold on to your vision and make the adjustments needed in order to get to the outcome just make sure you never loose yourself in the process. I never thought that would happen, is something you will find yourself saying many times, but remember you also never thought you would be on the road to discovering your full truth and potential. For every heartache, headache, setback and misstep there is a plan and lesson that goes with “finishing the house” in order to make it better. Be confident that God is the builder of your house of happiness that your soul must dwell in. Jesus is your life coach who will guide you along the way and the Holy Spirit is the encouraging who keeps telling you “Keep Praying and Keep going”. As my grandparents will so often say to be “Little Robert Its going be ok, keep doing you, It’ll work out”. #KeepItMovingPeople #GodsGotThisOneAndTheNextOneAfterThat   

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Dont Be Surprised People Do Change

There has been so much going on in my life lately that I can’t even begin to configure everything into a simple blog. But the one thing that has been a constant reminder through all of the things that I have been going through is that it’s all going be ok. I have seen family members and friends change in drastic ways recently. A lot of trust has been broken, words have been said that can’t ever be taken back and actions have definitely forced me to see people who I thought were close to me in a different light. But here is the thing about this time around, I’m not sad about it or devastated about it. It’s been an assurance that I have held on to that this will be ok whatever it is and whatever happens. I am not responsible for people’s actions or their words. I am not responsible for what people do and say. All I am responsible for is myself. I have been on a quest to get my happy back and what I really think that is about is being comfortable in my own skin and my own decisions and not letting people or situations effect me. I am done with feeling guilty about others actions and choices family or not. I am done with feeling like I should say something different just to avoid people’s egos getting bruised because they can’t handle the reality of the situation. Here’s the deal I am going state the situation let the chips fall where they may because holding in it causes way too much stress. Here’s the deal one day my feet will get cold and my eyes will shut and that is a guarantee for everyone so while we are here we should at least be happy and if those people around you aren’t willing to be happy with you or celebrate in your happiness then it might be time to let them go. Not everyone even family members who start the journey with you are suppose to end the journey with you. Don’t get upset when people betray you, hurt you, leave you or force you to leave them because that just means you’re being saved from trouble and preserved for something greater. God doesn’t just want you to get to the victory; he wants you to get to the victory with less burses as possible. So trust Jesus and Obey the father and in all of this God will give you a purpose for your pain. Let you pain, your problems and your entire struggle be intentional. Never forget only God is good so don’t be surprised in peoples behavior….